The definition of a false start is a failed attempt to begin. Okay, so we all know what a false start is, but how does it relate to recovering from your spouse’s affair? A false start related to infidelity recovery can take a few different paths. Here are the main ways your infidelity recovery can ...…
This is a guest post by Laura. I hope her perspective and how she talks so openly about her experiences will help you. The week after my husband told me he thought he was in love with someone else, I emailed a group of close girlfriends with the news. My words must have been hysterical ...…
I’ve been paying attention to quotes lately. Not sure why, I’ve just started noticing them. If you rely on quotes to be your philosophy you’ll be shallow and uninformed. However, if you see a quote that interests you, it’s a great place to start conversation about important topics. All by itself a quote is just ...…
I’m not a big follower of the Dalai Lama, but he does have some good things to say sometimes. Here’s one that I like: Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. – Dalai Lama Have you ever known someone who was constantly suffering about something? People who always play the victim make it a point to ...…
Do you know what your expectations are? If so, are they reasonable expectations? Does your spouse know what your expectations are? These are the questions that ended the last post. If you missed it, you can read it here. I wanted to talk a little more about the questions we ended with last time. Expectations ...…
Most marriages go through phases where things are boring. Sometimes those phases last a long time depending on what’s going on. Stress and kids and work and… well, life just gets in the way of a steamy, romantic marriage. And let’s just be honest here. When you live with someone day in and day out, ...…
At some point in recovery it’s time to get on with it and get back to normal. When you’ve both agreed that the marriage is worth saving and you both want to be in it, you just have to take the plunge and start living again as a couple. Living as a couple is fun. ...…
Did you start your marriage not trusting your spouse? Probably not. I suppose it happens, but it’s not how most people start their marriage. My marriage started off with complete trust. It’s absolutely devastating when you realize that the person you trusted enough to share your heart and your life with betrayed that trust by ...…
I recently wrote about wedding anniversaries and how difficult it is to know how to deal with the uncertainties and pain on that day when you’re working through the issues of your spouse’s affair. There are other memorable dates that need to be discussed that relate directly to your spouse’s affair. Some of these dates ...…
Today is our wedding anniversary. Wow. We’re happy and planning to celebrate with a night out tonight. I got him two cards – one funny and one that says how much he means to me. I wrote a few sentimental thoughts inside the serious card. I’m planning to give him the watch I bought him ...…