How many of you have seen the YouTube video of the honey badger tearing up that snake? Scary. Amazing. Inspiring!
You might wonder how this relates in any way to infidelity or dealing with an affair. I think it relates in several ways.
First of all, as someone who promised in front of God to honor your spouse and the vows you made it’s your responsibility to do whatever it takes to preserve your marriage. If your spouse goes against his or her vows by having an affair, it’s still your responsibility to do all you can to protect your marriage. In my opinion, that means tearing up any snake that tries to take up residence in your homestead.
That probably sounds a little extreme and in some cases it might be. In other cases, it’s dead on. In my case, that snake was trying to take everything from me. So, quite honestly, when I look back I realize that at the point when I finally took action I did it like a honey badger. I took no prisoners.
And second, if your spouse decides to start caring for someone else, you owe it to yourself and your kids to stand up for yourself. That’s exactly what a honey badger does. It won’t back down and it won’t cower away to see what will happen next.
Now, in reality the skirmish will likely not go as easy for you as it does for the honey badger. And keep in mind that the honey badger may not always win – but that honey badger is fearless. My battle with the snake lasted a long time and I got some bumps and bruises in the process. I didn’t give up, though.
My fight resulted in the recovery of my marriage. I want to stress that this may not be your desired outcome, but it’s still important that you fight for yourself with the intensity of the honey badger. Fight for your dignity, fight for your self esteem, fight for your kids, or fight to keep your marriage. Any and all of these things are important and worth the risk of a few cuts and scrapes.
So how do you go about fighting for your marriage, dignity, self esteem, kids, or anything else that is at stake when your spouse has an affair?
Investigate! Get the facts. Don’t get lost in the details, but get enough to be useful.
Decide what you want and go after it. Learn how and when to confront your spouse. Learn how much information to share.
Get educated on the laws in your state or country.
I’d love to hear about your journey. Leave a comment to fill us in on the ways you’re fighting for what’s important to you like a honey badger!